Monday, April 21, 2008

Now this is funny

She wasn't hurt.....

That was funny. Or was it?

Humor can vary greatly from person to person. People often say that they look for a partner with a "good" sense of humor. But what does that mean? I don't think we put enough emphasis on just how important it is to share not just humor but the same kind of humor. We are generally closer to those who share our type of humor. Something may be stupid to my husband while I find myself about to bust a gut falling out of chair over it. Often, those moments that I'm laughing out loud (you know, that stupid sounding hyena laugh), I see others looking at me like I'm missing my brain. Things that I find hilarious may be silly to someone else. I have to say that I believe that my closest friends and I have a very unique sense of humor. I'm glad we share that so that I don't feel like I'm in need of mental help. They remind me that I'm not alone in my doubled over laughter while listening to Jack Handy's "Deep Thoughts". And does anyone else out there find it side-splitting when someone falls (assuming that they are not hurt, of course). Even when I fall and hurt myself, the humor of it usually outweighs the hurt. Fortunately, I am able to laugh at myself also. So the next time you finding yourself laughing hysterically over something, stop and consider the subject matter and your sense of humor. How does it compare to others? You might find the discovery very interesting.

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Babies, Babies, Babies

Have you ever noticed that phenomenon that people always say about how things happen in threes? Usually a person is referring to death or pregnancy. 2 opposite extremes. This does seem to be the case lots of times. Fortunately, no one has died that I'm writing about today! However, it seems as though when someone close to me is expecting, its not long before I know of at least 2 more people. For the past few years, I can always name someone near me that's pregnant. I guess that's because I'm at a popular childbearing age as are most of my friends. Unfortunately, I won't be for too much longer. At least not according to my birthday next month. *Disclaimer* - That last comment is solely my opinion for me! For those of you who are ahead of me in years and having babies, I mean no disrespect. Simply put, I said I didn't plan to have any children after my 30th birthday and that's still my intention. So back to the point. I now have 3 people very close to me who are expecting and one that's adopting. Between the 4 of them, 5 babies! Way to go Amanda! Everytime I get the chance to be some part of a baby's birth, even if its as simple as witnessing the growth of mommy's belly and that sweet newborn a few months later, it reminds me just how thankful we should be for these miracles that are given to us. I believe that's the biggest miracle that has ever existed; the conception, birth and growth of a child. And to think, God trusts us to take care of his treasure that he created! It absolutely blows my mind to just watch a newborn sleep, move and make those strange but cute noises. To imagine how this tiny creature began and what has formed almost litarally in front of our eyes. And technology now allows us to witness this miracle in the making in 3D and 4D! WOW! When I am on the brink of a nervous breakdown because my children have driven me there, I need to remember just how lucky I am to have them and that I have been blessed with 3 miracles.

Congratulations to Stephanie, Nicole, Amanda and Melissa!

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Stop Complaining!

Complaints have almost ceased from my conversation in the last few weeks. I am happy and taken care of so what might there be to complain about? I'm sure I could think of something but who wants to put effort into that? Some people do I'm sure, but I'd rather not waist minutes doing so. However, today I found myself needing to complain or as we put it, "vent" for a moment. Although I did feel better after speaking it out loud to another human, I later began to wonder how healthy that is. It can't possibly be healthy but some people would argue that fact. Especially Psychologists..... oh no...... isn't that the area in which I'm working to obtain a degree? No, don't worry, I'm not dismissing my college career to this point. I don't feel that talking and expressing feelings about a subject are neccessarily the same as complaining. Webster's definition of complaining is "the expression of grief, pain, regret, etc." All of these could be argued but I think the difference may be that generally a complaint is something we either can't do anything about or something we choose not to do anything about. So why not go to the top source? What does God say in the Bible about complaining? The best verse I found to answer my question was actually an entire chapter. Psalm 139. I won't quote the whole thing but will give you just a verse or two. Verses 3 & 4 : "You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. (4) Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether." And that last few verses: (23) Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! (24) And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!" So how is that relevant to complaining? Isn't it obvious? Here's my opinion and interpretation. God knows everything there is to know about me and that includes my every thought and action even before it happens. I pray daily that I'll follow the path that he has set for me and that I honor his will. So if I find myself complaining, it has to mean one of two things. First scenario; I've taken a wrong turn somewhere and find myself where I should not be. That's the most likely thing to have happened! OR, I have followed God's will and I'm now speaking against him! What if I am where I should be, doing what I should be by His will, and I'm complaining?!? Now, that's a sobering thought. Lord, forgive me for my complaints today and guide my path tomorrow so that I may not be in conflict with YOUR will. Remind me when I am that you hold me in your hands and that you are above all!

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Selfish? Not Me!

I've had another revelation this weekend. Since I'm much happier now and have more time to enjoy life, I'm not as selfish as I once was. I realized that in the last couple of years, I had become very selfish. (And yes, I knew this even as it was happening but didn't really care) I'm speaking more specifically about my time. I felt like there was never enough time to get things done, to spend time with my family or to just be alone. "Free time" wasn't really a concept I understood. How could a person possibly have "free time"? There wasn't enough time to get everything done anyway so there was always something productive I could be doing! Of course, my definition of what's productive has changed too since I've changed my priority list. I can recall many times when I was asked to help with something or even to spend time with someone and I said "no" because I couldn't comfortably fit it into my busy schedule. More than that, I recall many times when I had the opportunity to step in to help or visit friends and family but chose not to. Don't misunderstand. As I mentioned above, I was aware of this but chose to not change it because I felt that if I did, I'd miss out on what I needed to do for myself and my own family. Now, however, I am so thankful that I've been able to change this in my life. Its such a great feeling to offer to do something for someone or to say yes when asked to do something. As I sit here today, listening to my children and their cousins play outside my window, I can't help but think that only a couple of months ago, this would not have been possible. I would never have offered to bring home someone else's children to play! Watch other children in addition to mine and try to get things done around the house on my only day off? Are you kidding me? I would never even have considered that. Now, its a wonderful sound and I'm thankful!

Friday, April 11, 2008

Stop and Smell the Mustard Greens

For those that read my blog, sorry for the long delay. Lots has been happening in my life over the past month or so with the most obvious being that I am now unemployed. I don't plan to tell that story but its very relevant to this post since one of the last things my boss said to me was an inclination that I needed to get my priorities straight. My new job is stay at home mom. I know you've heard all the hype about being politically correct and making sure that we don't undermind this job because of its hard work and importance. I'm not sure I agree with all the hoopla I hear concerning this but I will tell you my experience so far. This job is much harder than it looks. They're my children whom I see everyday so what could have been the big deal about now staying home with them and keeping them everyday? I'm here to tell you - its a very big deal and a bigger change than anyone can explain. Everyday, I'm learning new things about my children (and myself) that I didn't know before. I didn't realize that I barely even knew who they were. That may seem like an exaggeration but taking into account the many little things I've discovered over the past 4 weeks, its really not. Anyway, bottom line is that I am so thankful that I am now at home with my children. The one thing I want to make sure everyone knows is that in spite of the hard work, this is absolutely, without a doubt, the most rewarding job one could ever have. I won't even begin to try to explain it but those of you who are parents and especially those that stay home with their children will understand. Now, back to the title of this post. I have been given a new opportunity to focus on the important things in life and quite honestly, it took me a little while to figure out what that was since my priorities have included unwanted things for a long time. I am spending lots of time with my children, without a television or radio for the entire day, and finding that I love being outdoors. Although that may change as this NC summer approaches! I have more time for my husband, whom I appreciate now more than ever. I've tried to make this transition as easy as possible for him since there will be some things I can't control like money and bills. Its the simple things like keeping the house clean, cooking dinner, making his lunch and most of all, spending time with him that matter now. We are getting along much better now which I had suspected would happen. However, I do feel as though I have some accountability in this new job that I had not realized would be the case. When Curtis comes home, I feel like I have to give him the rundown of what I've been doing all day even though he doesn't always ask. Today, I'll tell him that we have worked on our new garden, trimmed the trees and hedges around the house and yard, raked and picked up pine straw, washed clothes and dishes, had a friend over for AJ to play with, and most important, visited my grandparents. Although we arrived as he was finishing, the girls and I were able to walk with Grandad in his garden as he cut the fresh mustard greens for my Grandma to cook. That's been the best part of our day so far. I think I'm finally getting my priorities straight.