I have heard people say that if you are stating a fact, it doesn't qualify as gossip. They are trying to justify their actions. I'm not sure I agree. There are many things that I can state as fact but that doesn't make it my place to tell others. Here's my take on gossip. Ultimately, it comes down to intention and reason. If I have a true need to tell someone something that isn't about me, then I should have a reason for that person to know. Does it involve them directly? Next, are my intentions pure? If I tell a friend about another friend's transgressions that does not affect either of us, isn't that gossip? Suppose I tell someone with good intentions. Good intentions would imply that I have some solution for a problem. I believe this all boils down to one simple concept.
Before I tell someone news that is not about me or does not pertain to me in any way, I need to stop and think. This is where the "filter" comes in! Am I telling this out of care or concern? Would the person I am talking about mind that I am sharing information about them? Last and most important, have I spoken to God about it and used Him as a reference as to whether or not I should divulge the information?
How do you feel about gossip and what is your take on it?